I loved the day we got married. I loved our wedding; it was a very special day. The week after it may have been the bridal blues, but I was left with a feeling of "That's it?!"
We spent so much time planning and booking and saving and paying and crafting that after only one day of mild hubub it sucked out the feeling of expectation and replaced it with "what it is."
What I expected: a realistic version of a Disney movie's flora and fauna comprised of moss, branches, fluttering butterflies and hopping bunny rabbits surrounding us all day.
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| What getting married REALLY looks like: crowded. D. Pohlen |
What we got: A unique, light hearted delight of a perfectly executed handmade wedding, on just another Friday.
What makes the wedding special I realized, is the rememberance of it over time.
Looking down at my hand-crocheted-by-me ring pillows while stashing them away, I came to the idea that what makes your wedding keepsakes special is the trouble of going through saving the mere objects in the first place. After time passes in months and then in years, the brief memories of what went wrong fade away and are replaced by the happy memories your keepsakes bring back to mind.
Getting older helps me to emotionally place revered events like new life and all death into equal perspective with other everyday life events. I believe that a lot of life changes that are both feared and looked forward to should be as equal a part of everyday life as, well, everyday life. The wedding is only the first day of the MARRIAGE. The marriage should be just as special every day as it was on the wedding day.
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| More of what I remember: Shawn. D.Pohlen |
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7 comments:
Sometimes right after the wedding it can be hard to get back into things after planning and crafting for so long. I felt a little lost of, "Okay now what?" But you start to get back into life and start enjoying the many more memories you will make...now as a married couple! :)
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Yes! The marriage should be as special as the wedding! I think too many people forget that and they start to get depressed that they will never be able to plan another wedding. Weird.
Very insightful post about "the rest of your life together" from someone so newly married!
@ We're just looking at the long-run... that's what we're in this for. You have to keep the everyday in perspective or else you'll lose yourself and each other in the tiny little things you get hung up on. You just have to ask yourself "Will this matter tomorrow? Next week? Next month? Next year?" If not, let it GO.
Being married is so fun in an everyday sort of way. I have been married for over 30 years and everyday is a new adventure. Not all adventures are fun, but adventures are always welcome. The thing that I always tell every bride I meet (I'm a floral designer, so I have met and worked with many) is to enjoy your wedding day one moment at a time. You will then have many memories of your day to remember and enjoy! After my wedding I just wanted to wear my dress again! I never did...at least not yet. Anyway, congratulations and best wishes to you in your new married life!
very, very true!
One of the greatest days in my life so far. I love this.
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